Greg,Somewhere I recall...(anyway, I haven't read Meagher, read around a
100 JFK Assassination books, but can't read them all, nor would I want
too, though there is some very unique interesting info. in some
otherwise mediocre books) that Marguerite in Ft. Worth had destroyed a
BY Photo of Oswald holding a rfile over his head? So, you are saying
that this was actually a photo of Lee in Minsk that Marina destroyed,
which was the impetus for the entire set of fraudulent BY photos and
that RP and MP are connected?
Interesting...I'll have to think about that..also, interesting is DeM &
Roscoe White are connected to the photos, but the former at a possible
facilitator macro level, and the latter at the micro level... I believe
of the conspiracy...Laz
Well think abouit this Laz...... Lee was a foreigner in the USSR....
Do you really think the Russians would have allowed him to have a
rifle?? Even Russian citizens weren't allowed to possess rifles.
"Even Russian citizens weren't allowed to possess rifles"
Walt is right --- no rifles ...
" You can't buy a rifle in Russia, you can only buy shotguns. I had a
shotgun in Russia and hunted some while there."
However , "A gun is a gun is a gun."..
The bottom line is that a gun is a gun is a gun. All are inert
objects, the only danger comes from the person behind the trigger.
How to learn from your mistakes
By Scott Berkun, July 17 2005
You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it. As
soon as you start blaming other people (or the universe itself) you
distance yourself from any possible lesson. But if you courageously
stand up and honestly say “This is my mistake and I am responsible”
the possibilities for learning will move towards you. Admission of a
mistake, even if only privately to yourself, makes learning possible
by moving the focus away from blame assignment and towards
understanding. Wise people admit their mistakes easily. They know
progress accelerates when they do.
This advice runs counter to the cultural assumptions we have about
mistakes and failure, namely that they are shameful things. We’re
taught in school, in our families, or at work to feel guilty about
failure and to do whatever we can to avoid mistakes. This sense of
shame combined with the inevitability of setbacks when attempting
difficult things explains why many people give up on their goals:
they’re not prepared for the mistakes and failures they’ll face on
their way to what they want. What’s missing in many people’s beliefs
about success is the fact that the more challenging the goal, the more
frequent and difficult setbacks will be. The larger your ambitions,
the more dependent you will be on your ability to overcome and learn
from your mistakes.
But for many reasons admitting mistakes is difficult. An implied value
in many cultures is that our work represents us: if you fail a test,
then you are a failure. If you make a mistake then you are a mistake
(You may never have felt this way, but many people do. It explains the
behavior of some of your high school or college friends). Like eggs,
steak and other tasty things we are given letter grades (A, B, C, D
and F) organizing us for someone else’s consumption: universities and
employers evaluate young candidates on their grades, numbers based on
scores from tests unforgiving to mistakes.
For anyone than never discovers a deeper self-identity, based not on
lack of mistakes but on courage, compassionate intelligence,
commitment and creativity, life is a scary place made safe only by
never getting into trouble, never breaking rules and never taking the
risks that their hearts tell them they need to take.
Learning from mistakes requires three things:
1.Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting
2.Having the self-confidence to admit to them
3.Being courageous about making changes
This essay will cover all three. First we have to classify the
different kinds of mistakes.
The four kinds of mistakes
One way to categorize mistakes is into these categories:
Stupid: Absurdly dumb things that just happen. Stubbing your toe,
dropping your pizza on your neighbor’s fat cat or poking yourself in
the eye with a banana.
Simple: Mistakes that are avoidable but your sequence of decisions
made inevitable. Having the power go out in the middle of your party
because you forgot to pay the rent, or running out of beer at said
party because you didn’t anticipate the number of guests.
Involved: Mistakes that are understood but require effort to prevent.
Regularly arriving late to work/friends, eating fast food for lunch
every day, or going bankrupt at your start-up company because of your
complete ignorance of basic accounting.
Complex: Mistakes that have complicated causes and no obvious way to
avoid next time. Examples include making tough decisions that have bad
results, relationships that fail, or other unpleasant or unsatisfying
outcomes to important things.
(I’m sure you can come up with other categories: that’s fantastic,
please share them here. But these are the ones you’re stuck with for
the rest of this essay).
I’m leaving all philosophical questions about mistakes up to you. One
person’s pleasure is another person’s mistake: decide for yourself.
Maybe you enjoy stabbing your neighbor’s cat with a banana, who knows.
We all do things we know are bad in the long term, but are oh so good
in the short term. So regardless of where you stand, I’m working with
you. However mistakes are defined in your personal philosophy this
essay should help you learn from them.
Learning from mistakes that fall into the first two categories (Stupid
& Simple) is easy, but shallow. Once you recognize the problem and
know the better way, you should be able to avoid similar mistakes. Or
in some cases you’ll realize that no matter what you do once in a
while you’ll do stupid things (e.g. even Einstein stubbed his toes).
But these kinds of mistakes are not interesting. The lessons aren’t
deep and it’s unlikely they lead you to learn much about yourself or
anything else. For example compare these two mistakes
1.My use of dual part harmony for the 2nd trumpets in my orchestral
composition for the homeless children’s shelter benefit concert
overpowered the intended narrative of the violins.
2.I got an Oreo stuck in my underwear.
The kind of mistakes you make define you. The more interesting the
mistakes, the more interesting the life. If your biggest mistakes are
missing reruns of tv-shows or buying the wrong lottery ticket you’re
not challenging yourself enough to earn more interesting mistakes.
And since there isn’t much to learn from simple and stupid mistakes,
most people try to minimize their frequency and how much time we spend
recovering from them. Their time is better spent learning from bigger
mistakes. But if we habitually or compulsively make stupid mistakes,
then what we really have is an involved mistake.
The third pile of mistakes, Involved mistakes, requires significant
changes to avoid. These are mistakes we tend to make through either
habit or nature. But since change is so much harder than we admit, we
often suffer through the same mistakes again and again instead of
making the tough changes needed to avoid them.
Difficultly with change involves an earlier point made in this essay.
Some feel that to agree to change means there is something wrong with
them. “If I’m perfect, why would I need to change?” Since they need to
protect their idea of perfection, they refuse change (Or possibly,
even refuse to admit they did anything wrong).
But this is a trap: refusing to acknowledge mistakes, or tendencies to
make similar kinds of mistakes, is a refusal to acknowledge reality.
If you can’t see the gaps, flaws, or weaknesses in your behavior
you’re forever trapped in the same behavior and limitations you’ve
always had, possibly since you were a child (When someone tells you
you’re being a baby, they might be right).
Another challenge to change is that it may require renewing
commitments you’ve broken before, from the trivial “Yes, I’ll try to
remember to take the trash out” to the more serious “I’ll try to stop
sleeping with all of your friends”. This happens in any environment:
the workplace, friendships, romantic relationships or even commitments
you’ve made to yourself. Renewing commitments can be tough since it
requires not only admitting to the recent mistake, but acknowledging
similar mistakes you’ve made before. The feelings of failure and guilt
become so large that we don’t have the courage to try again.
This is why success in learning from mistakes often requires
involvement from other people, either for advice, training or simply
to keep you honest. A supportive friend’s, mentor’s or professional’s
perspective on your behavior will be more objective than your own and
help you identify when yhttp://www.scottberkun.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=578&action=editou’re
hedging, breaking or denying the commitments you’ve made.
In moments of weakness the only way to prevent a mistake is to enlist
someone else. “Fred, I want to play my Gamecube today but I promised
Sally I wouldn’t. Can we hang out so you can make sure I don’t do it
today?” Admitting you need help and asking for it often requires more
courage than trying to do it on your own.
The biggest lesson to learn in involved mistakes is that you have to
examine your own ability to change. Some kinds of change will be
easier for you than others and until you make mistakes and try to
correct them you won’t know which they are.
How to handle complex mistakes
The most interesting kinds of mistake are the last group: Complex
mistakes. The more complicated the mistake you’ve made, the more
patient you need to be. There’s nothing worse than flailing around
trying to fix something you don’t understand: you’ll always make
I remember as a kid when our beloved Atari 2600 game system started
showing static on the screen during games. The solution my brother and
I came up with? Smack the machine as hard as we could (A clear sign I
had the intellect for management). Amazingly this worked for awhile,
but after weeks of regular beatings the delicate electronics
eventually gave out. We were lazy, ignorant and impatient, and
couldn’t see that our solution would work against us.
Professional investigators, like journalists, police detectives and
doctors, try to get as many perspectives on situations as possible
before taking action (Policemen use eyewitnesses, Doctors use exams
and tests, scientific studies use large sample sizes). They know that
human perception, including their own, is highly fallible and biased
by many factors. The only way to obtain an objective understanding is
to compare several different perspectives. When trying to understand
your own mistakes in complex situations you should work in the same
Start by finding someone else to talk to about what happened. Even if
no one was within 50 yards when you crashed your best friend’s BMW
into your neighbor’s living room, talking to someone else gives you
the benefit of their experience applied to your situation. They may
know of someone that’s made a similar mistake or know a way to deal
with the problem that you don’t.
But most importantly, by describing what happened you are forced to
break down the chronology and clearly define (your recollection of)
the sequence of events. They may ask you questions that surface
important details you didn’t notice before. There may have been more
going on (did the brakes fail? Did you swerve to avoid your neighbor’s
daughter? etc.) than you, consumed by your emotions about your
If multiple people were involved (say, your co-workers), you want to
hear each person’s account of what happened. Each person will
emphasize different aspects of the situation based on their skills,
biases, and circumstances, getting you closer to a complete view of
what took place.
If the situation was/is contentious you may need people to report
their stories independently – police investigators never have
eyewitness collaborate. They want each point of view to be delivered
unbiased by other eyewitnesses (possibly erroneous) recollections.
Later on they’ll bring each account together and see what fits and
An illustrative example comes from the book Inviting disasters
Inviting Disaster: Lessons from the edge of technology. It tells the
story of a floating dormitory for oil workers in the North Sea that
rolled over during the night killing over 100 people. The engineering
experts quickly constructed different theories and complex
explanations that focused on operational errors and management
All of these theories were wrong. It was eventually discovered through
careful analysis that weeks earlier a crack in a support structure had
been painted over, instead of being reported and repaired. This
stupid, simple and small mistake caused the superstructure to fail,
sinking the dormitory. Without careful analysis the wrong conclusion
would have been reached (e.g. smacking the Atari) and the wrong lesson
would have been learned.
Until you work backwards for moments, hours or days before the actual
mistake event, you probably won’t see all of the contributing factors
and can’t learn all of the possible lessons. The more complex the
mistake, the further back you’ll need to go and the more careful and
open-minded you need to be in your own investigation. You may even
need to bring in an objective outsider to help sort things out. You’d
never have a suspect in a crime lead the investigation, right? Then
how can you completely trust yourself to investigate your own
Here some questions to ask to help your investigation:
What was the probable sequence of events?
Were their multiple small mistakes that led to a larger one?
Were there any erroneous assumptions made?
Did we have the right goals? Were we trying to solve the right
Was it possible to have recognized bad assumptions earlier?
Was there information we know now that would have been useful then?
What would we do differently if in this exact situation again?
How can we avoid getting into situations like this? (What was the kind
of situation we wanted to be in?)
Was this simply unavoidable given all of the circumstances? A failure
isn’t a mistake if you were attempting the impossible.
Has enough time passed for us to know if this is a mistake or not?
As you put together the sequence of events, you’ll recognize that
mistakes initially categorized as complex eventually break down into
smaller mistakes. The painted over crack was avoidable but happened
anyway (Stupid). Was there a system in place for avoiding these
mistakes? (Simple). Were there unaddressed patterns of behavior that
made that system fail? (Involved). Once you’ve broken a complex
mistake down you can follow the previous advice on making changes.
Humor and Courage
No amount of analysis can replace your confidence in yourself. When
you’ve made a mistake, especially a visible one that impacts other
people, it’s natural to question your ability to perform next time.
But you must get past your doubts. The best you can do is study the
past, practice for the situations you expect, and get back in the
game. Your studying of the past should help broaden your perspective.
You want to be aware of how many other smart, capable well meaning
people have made similar mistakes to the one you made, and went on to
even bigger mistakes, I mean successes, in the future.
One way to know you’ve reached a healthy place is your sense of humor.
It might take a few days, but eventually you’ll see some comedy in
what happened. When friends tell stories of their mistakes it makes
you laugh, right? Well when you can laugh at your own mistakes you
know you’ve accepted it and no longer judge yourself on the basis of
one single event. Reaching this kind of perspective is very important
in avoiding future mistakes. Humor loosens up your psychology and
prevents you from obsessing about the past. It’s easy to make new
mistakes by spending too much energy protecting against the previous
ones. Remember the saying “a man fears the tiger that bit him last,
instead of the tiger that will bite him next”.
So the most important lesson in all of mistake making is to trust that
while mistakes are inevitable, if you can learn from the current one,
you’ll also be able to learn from future ones. No matter when happens
tomorrow you’ll be able to get value from it, and apply it to the day
after that. Progress won’t be a straight line but if you keep learning
you will have more successes than failures, and the mistakes you make
along the way will help you get to where you want to go.
The learning from mistakes checklist
Accepting responsibility makes learning possible.
Don’t equate making mistakes with being a mistake.
You can’t change mistakes, but you can choose how to respond to them.
Growth starts when you can see room for improvement.
Work to understand why it happened and what the factors were.
What information could have avoided the mistake?
What small mistakes, in sequence, contributed to the bigger mistake?
Are there alternatives you should have considered but did not?
What kinds of changes are required to avoid making this mistake again?
What kinds of change are difficult for you?
How do you think your behavior should/would change in you were in a
similar situation again?
Work to understand the mistake until you can make fun of it (or not
want to kill others that make fun).
Don’t over-compensate: the next situation won’t be the same as the
Inviting Disaster: Lessons from the edge of technology by James
Chiles. A series of magazine style essays about major technological
disasters in the last 100 years. Includes the Challenge shuttle,
Apollo 13, & Three mile island.
The Logic of Failure by Dietrich Dorner. An analysis of decision
making mistakes in complex environments. More academic than Inviting
disaster, but also more prescriptive.